What we think about grows. As a master at growing inappropriate unfruitful thoughts in my mind. . . I have really appreciated the lessons this week. The words that keep us in our comfort zone are fear, anger, unworthiness, hurt, and guilt. I never really understood this till I reread my notes from the call. Anyhow as I examined the definitions of the words I can see how many of them are based on feelings, perceptions and possibilities. Which means I have a choice. . . all these feelings which serve a purpose on some level (safety) are also taking me away from what I should be focused on. ~ The great adventure and the Life God is calling me to live!
When I looked up all the definitions of the words we were to study and discovered that many of my perceptions of the these words were not entirely correct. The first one that caught my attention was FEAR. So often I would think I had fear around a situation but when I looked up this definition I am using it incorrectly.
an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat.
“he is prey to irrational fears”
be afraid of (someone or something) as likely to be dangerous, painful, or threatening.
It is not often I feel things to be dangerous, a threat or causing pain. HOWEVER I certainly perceive them that way. But upon reflection it is always the emotional part I am really worried about. Which led me to look up AFRAID.
feeling fear or anxiety; frightened.
worried that something undesirable will occur or be done.
unwilling or reluctant to do something for fear of the consequences.
As Mark would say, “BAM”! I realized I am afraid and worried about something that “could, may, might” happen in the future but it’s not a given. Og strongly suggests that it is not a good idea to waste the one and only precious moment I have on the future which I don’t have!!
When I examined the rest of the words that keep me in my comfort there were a few things that jumped out at me as well.
not deserving effort, attention, or respect.
having little value or merit.
How could I EVER be unworthy if I am God’s greatest miracle. I was made first class, by first class and whatever first class wants for me, I am worthy! I have great value as he created a spirit just for me. That makes me humble, not an excuse to sit in the comfort zone in the middle of a pity pool party.
The other thing I noticed were how many times these words focused on FEELINGS and EMOTIONS! Why have I let these things control me when I am in fact, the owner operator and can CHOOSE to let these feelings attach to a thought or. . . not??? (I added guilt trip as the dictionary suggested it and this sample sentence is pretty powerful. ) “let’s skip the guilt trip and talk real, rational reasons”
the fact or state of having committed an offense, crime, violation, or wrong, especially against moral or penal law; culpability:
a feeling of responsibility or remorse for some offense, crime, wrong, etc., whether real or imagined.
to cause to feel guilty (often followed by out or into):
She totally guilted me out, dude. He guilted me into picking up the tab.
See also guilt-trip
an experience of feeling guilty about something, especially when such guilt is excessive, self-indulgent, or unfounded.
“let’s skip the guilt trip and talk real, rational reasons”
make (someone) feel guilty, especially in order to induce them to do something. Hurt Feelings:
unhappiness or sadness caused by someone’s words or actions
strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility.
fill (someone) with anger; provoke anger in.
The final one ANGER still has that “FEELING” word in there I need more reflecting. I don’t think anger keeps me in my comfort zone, but it sure does keep me from having control.
Knowing what is keeping me in my comfort zone is in fact “comfort”-ing! Cause now I know what I can do to GET OUT! Attach the truth to the situation and focus on the desired outcome, rather then let feelings or appearance keep me in that zone! What we think about grows!🌱🌿🌳